Sex, or trying to have sexual intimacy, outside wedlock will always complicate things. It is always better to not having sex with your partner before marriage. But in today's world where love and sex have become harder to distinguish, many feel that sex is a must in their relationships.
But do you know that, instead of strengthening a relationship, sex too many times becomes the root of the many problems faced by many relationships? So, when is the right time for sex? What are the signs? Find out below!
- Lack of emotional security
Insecurity feelings never do any good. If you think that you will make your man more attached to you by giving him sex, you are totally wrong!
The correlation between men and sex is very different than women. Men hardly feel bonded with a woman after sex. The truth is, it can instead backfire to you if he feels being manipulated.
One thing you should know: men does not think about sex in the same way as women. Maybe for most women sex is the ultimate intimacy that they are willing to experience it only with someone special. But for men sex is just sex, nothing more. Men are fully capable of having sexual intimacy with any woman he finds, anywhere he wants.
- Lack of deeper rapport
Yes indeed sex can enhance the quality of a relationship and make it more beautiful. But it will not be able to do that without the presence of love. Sex without love will only make things worse.
Sex, even in its most incredible form, will not change men. The best thing sex can do for you is to make your man wants to be near you as much as he wants to be near a toilet so that he can use it anytime he needs it.
- Lack of deeper knowledge about your partner
How deep is your knowledge about his personality? Is he a man with integrity, a man that will keep his words?
And how is his moral standards? How much does he value the precious and important things in life? Or does he love to boast his sexual experience to his friends?
For your own goodness, don't put yourself in danger by having sexual relationship with a man whose personality you hardly know.
- Who wants that sexual intimacy most? You? Or Him?
Differentiate between wants and needs. What you want does not necessarily what you need. Indeed men and women have the same sex drive, but, do you need it?
And even if you do and want it, do you want to do it with him? Or is it because he asked you for it and you feel guilty if you don't give it? Sexual intimacy should be wanted by the two of you, not by only one.
- You feel uncomfortable about having that sexual intimacy now
Only allow sexual intimacy if you feel comfortable. You must put yourself as your priority. You must love yourself first before you love others. Even God's command implies that we have to love ourselves first before we can love others. And realize this: unless you are happy with yourself, no relationship can make you happy.
And remember, there are big differences between women and men. As a woman, sex can make you much more vulnerable emotionally. And your risks are greater if we must mention other factors such as unplanned pregnancy, STD (Sexually Trasmitted disease), etc.
Sex out of a committed relationship is indeed very risky for females. Woman is always on the disadvantage edge when in that kind of sexual intimacy.
So, don't be too easy to new your boyfriend. Playing hard to get is your best bet. And you know what? Men love to chase because that's how they created: to be hunters. And hunters chase their targets, don't they?
So girls, use sex intimacy right and find your happiness. Or use it wrongly and get ready to doom! If you need one, find the good relationship advice here.
